I know I’m risking offending many, many people out there with this post. Please don’t take it personally if you consider me a friend and are left wondering if the feeling is mutual after reading this post. I can assure you, if we talk regularly, hang out when we can, and generally have a good time when we interact then I certainly like you – but you may not be one of my closest friends.
Friendship takes time. I have a lot of great friends, most of them I’ve known for more than half my life. There are very few people who I have met over the past twenty years who are truly my friends. Friendship requires trust. And this is where the element of time comes in. In order to be a good friend, I’ve got to trust you and you’ve got to trust me. I don’t trust many people too quickly. I’m skeptical. It takes time to build trust. My closest friends, are my most trusted friends and as a result are usually my oldest friends.
So, I suppose my definition of friendship predicated upon trust. Friendship is a bond of trust between two or more people and nothing less than that.