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Small World

I’ve donated to my alma mater every year since I graduated.  I think that’s why they keep calling me.  The conversation usually goes something like this:

“Hi mister DeVille, this is Jennifer and I’m a Penn State Student…”  I’m always friendly, because well, I like Penn State and when you do get a talkative student, sometimes you hear something interesting about the university.

Last night it was Courtney on the phone.  She was cheerful and I was feeling like I could make a donation to the libraries fund.  So she’s confirming my address and she asks, “is that near DC?”  I said, “yes it is, I work in Silver Spring.”  She says that she’d like to move to the city after school and that she grew up in a small town in PA.  I ask her which town.  Gettysburg.

Well, I grew up 7 miles south of Gettysburg in Maryland, so I told her that, and here’s where it got interesting.

She says, “I went to Mother Seton in Emmitsburg”

“So did I,” I say, “and then I went on to Delone.”  

“No way, so did I, and so did my father, he graduated from Delone in 1986.”

“I started at Delone in 1986, I missed going to High School with your father by a year”…

We laughed about it and talked briefly about some big families in the area and it was kind of cool.  So the werid thing is that Penn State has roughly 40,000 undergrads.   Delone graduates about 150 kids a year.  Statistically speaking, I’m thinking its really unlikely that one of the Delone grads would call me.  Mother Seton had about 30 kids per class, so it becomes even more unlikely that a Delone/MSS grad would call me from Penn State.

It really is a small world out there.

The importance of giving back

Very likely, you are much more fortunate than you think.

We all have problems, but few of us have problems that impact our lives in ways that really degrade our standard of living. There are times when the grind gets to me. I find it very hard to focus on the fact that I’ve got it pretty good. I’m very lucky to have a healthy and happy family.

To that end here’s a list of ten things that are going right as of today:

  1. Greyson is a healthy baby boy, weighing in at over 19 pounds at 6 months. He is starting to talk (Dadadadadadada - It doesn’t hurt that that’s me even if he doesn’t know it). He has started to eat solid food (oatmeal and sweet potatos). He laughs and smiles nearly every time I walk into the room.
  2. Taffy has quit her job. She will be staying home with Greyson full time from now on. (I’m a bit nervous about this on a number of levels, but I know it will all be okay in the end.)
  3. I’ve got a good job that doesn’t require me to work outdoors in extreme heat or cold.
  4. We may not be able to have all the THINGS that we’d like, but we do have most of what we want and certainly have all that we NEED.
  5. We are fortunate enough to be selective in the type of food we buy. (We try to buy organic, but it doesn’t always work out. We need to be buying local…)
  6. We have a small, but supportive, family. We are lucky to have the family that we have. Many people don’t have a close family. Greyson’s Grandmother came up from NC to stay with him during the day last week. We lost our child care a few weeks ago and Taffy still had a week of work to deal with. It was fantastic to have Pat up for the week so that neither of us had to skip work. (I’m pretty sure Pat loved spending time with Greyson as well…)
  7. We are not suffering from a significant drought this year. (The rain in MD has been above average for this time of year, accoridng to www.accuweather.com
  8. Both Taffy and I are relatively healthy. We certainly could do more to make ourselves healthier, but neither of us have one foot in the grave…
  9. My parents taught me right from wrong. I was fortunate to have such wonderful parents. I miss my dad more than I can ever put in words. He taught me how to be a man, but more importantly how to be a father.
  10. Taffy is the most extraordinary woman I’ve ever met and she not only agreed to marry me, but to bear my children. She rocks!!!

So what does this have to do with the importance of giving back. Well, even though I’ve got it really good, better than most, it’s still hard to part with cash or more importantly time to give back. There was a time when I gave two weekends a year to a wonderful camp that was focused on families living with HIV/AIDS. I no longer have time to give to that camp. And I miss that.

I will never forget the second camp that I attended as a volunteer, where a little girl from Baltimore came up to me, fresh off the bus from Johns Hopkins Hosptial, and asked “Are you gonna take me fishin this weekend.” I wonder what she’s up to this weekend. She was an angel. She lost her mother a few years ago. She didn’t return to camp but once after that.

While I can no longer give my time, I can give money to worthy causes. This is not nearly as beneficial as giving my time, my love, my character to an organiztion, but it’s something.

So, I encourage you, dear reader, to count your blessings, and in this time of a sour economy find a way to give back to your community, whereever it is. I guarentee it will be worth either your time or your money.