Recently a friend of mine asked me to contribute to a list of things we wished we’d known at 13 for a boy who is about to turn 13.
Here’s what I came up with:
Things I wish I’d known at 13
- For every person who breaks your heart, there is likely someone who you’ve heart-broken.
- Shined shoes are one way potential employers judge whether you’d be the right person for the job.
- Everyone is delicate on the inside. Treat everyone you meet with the respect you’d expect them to show you.
- Life is not fair, don’t expect it to be.
- Don’t expect that people will do what you expect of them. Very often they won’t meet your expectations. Accept that they are doing as best they can, and you don’t know what’s going on in their lives that may be impacting them.
- You won’t meet others expectations all the time either.
- Some days you won’t have it in you to do your best, that’s okay too. Pick up where you left off and give it your best the next day.
- Nothing fixes a bad day like laughing. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh.
- Eat breakfast every day.
- Don’t smoke. Anything. Ever. It will kill you.
- Some things you won’t understand until you are much older. Some things you may never understand. That’s okay, too.
- That girl (or boy) you want to kiss but are afraid to…Just give them a kiss. You might be surprised. (Or embarrassed, but embarrassment fades quickly and you’ll never know until you try.)
- When you find the person who is the love of your life, you will know it. There may be people you think are “The One”. There may be people you convince yourself are “The One.” These people may not be “The One.” But when you meet the person who you love and can live with forever, you will know it. It may take years to find that person.
- There are many paths to “success,” your job is to find the one that suits you the best.
- “Success” does not = $
- “Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish”
Ever feel like your legs are made of lead? That’s how I felt today. I went for the first ride of 2014, a full 147 days after my last ride of 2013. I struggled with 8.1 miles. Minor bumps in the landscape felt like impossible ascents. It is clear that the last few months of not biking have taken a toll on my stamina.
But, it was the first day back on the bike. It was the first step of the journey. If I keep it up, by April these pains and frustrations will begin to fade. By May, I’ll be back in reasonable form. And by June, I’ll be riding effortlessly.
That’s the plan. I’m sticking to it.
I promised myself, this winter would be different. I wouldn’t fall behind on all my normal activities and hibernate. I’d keep riding my bike. I’d keep in touch with friends. I wouldn’t let the cold keep be indoors. I would write in my journal. I’d write on this blog.
Pretty much none of that happened. It’s March 1st and the last time I wrote for Steady.org was in November, around Thanksgiving. I haven’t been on my bike since October. What the fuck have I been doing?
Predictably, the month of December was a mad house. One thing about being in a pre-sales engineering role for work is that the end of the year matters. Work was busy. The days were shorter. The darkness crept in and blamo, it was full on winter blues even if I didn’t recognize it.
Then there was Christmas, and Mr. Grey’s birthday is two days after Christmas. So pretty much that week was shot. Next came our company sales kick off meetings, and an unusually active January and February as far as work goes. Suddenly, it’s March 1st and I don’t really know where the time went.
On the positive side, I have started using a Jawbone UP24 and now know a bit more about myself. For example, if I have an appointment that’s an hour away from my home and I don’t deliberately walk, I may only get 2000 steps in that day. And if I am left to my own, I’ll sleep 8.5 hours a night or even longer.
Today, as I was walking my 3 mile walk to get some steps in, I passed a biker on the B&A trail and it dawned on me that I should have gone out for a ride. It’s not going to happen today, but maybe I can get myself to get up and move toward the bike in the morning. If I don’t, it will be at least another week as we’re about to get pummeled with 8–12 inches of snow here in Maryland.